How to Create an Intimate Friendship With God

Jesus says that we are his friends. (John 15:15) In Jeremiah 1:5 God says, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you.” The Hebrew word for this “knew” is You are 1“Yada”. It is the same “knew” of Adam knowing Eve as his wife in Genesis 4:1. God’s knowing me intimately is not such a surprise since He knows the number of the hairs on my head. (Matthew 10:30)  What is amazing to me is that God wants me, to know Him.

As my creator, God understands why I like the music I do, and that I don’t like the texture of cooked oatmeal. However, my getting to know God’s personality seemed strange. Political candidates want voters to know their views, and their strengths, all the while trying to protect their privacy. God wants me for a companion, even though I offer nothing to the relationship. Granted, my trying to comprehend God is like my dog, Bentley trying to understand me. I don’t care that Bentley isn’t my intellectual equal, I enjoy spending time with him. God enjoys hanging out with His creation.

I’ll set up my residence in your neighborhood; I won’t avoid or shun you; I’ll stroll through your streets. I’ll be your God; you’ll be my people. I am God, your personal God who rescued you from Egypt so that you would no longer be slaves to the Egyptians. I ripped off the harness of your slavery so that you can move about freely. (Leviticus 26:11-13 MSG emphasis mine)

Friendships don’t just happen, they take effort  to cultivate.

My relationship with God, grew when I began to “Pray continually”. (1 Thessalonians 5:17) I concentrated on His presence after I closed my Bible and said, “Amen”. Instead of talking to myself all day, I mentally talked to God about my day-to-day activities. Sometimes I forgot whom I was conversing with and start trash talking about someone. God would say, “Really, Jayna really.” In that same tone of voice that Seth Meyers and Amy Poehler used on the SNL news desk. Then I would have to admit, I was just as guilty of the same sin. I realize this sounds like I created an imaginary friend, but now I was recognizing God had been there the entire time. (Matthew 28:20 NIV)

“The Lord is good to those whose hope is in him, to the one who seeks him; it is good to wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord…. Let him sit alone in silence, for the Lord has laid it on him.” (Lamentations 3:25, 26, 28 NIV emphasis mine)

Desperate to know God, I choose to spend time alone with God without the distractions of any media. The first time was an evening when I was alone in a hotel room. I simply thought about God, and read my Bible. I refused to ask for anything from Him. I don’t want a relationship with someone who is always asking me to do things for them. Nothing special happened, I didn’t really get bored, but I didn’t have a spiritual high.

Although I knew Jesus fasted and prayed for 40 days, Holy Spirit has not led me in that direction. Instead I block off 3-4 hours periodically to spend time hanging out with God. Sometimes we listen to Christian music, sometimes we sing, we dance, we go for walks, I read scripture aloud, or sit in silence. It is a companionable silence. Our times together are healing for me, I may cry, or laugh. There was one time I cursed and yelled in frustration, perhaps this was my way of wrestling like Jacob did (Genesis 32:22-30).

I can’t say I know God better from our dates, but I do trust Him more. I feel more secure in His unconditional love.  He likes my sense of humor; after all He did give it to me. I realize that some may read this post and say that woman is crazy, but if I am strange. Like King David I now love to spend time with God, (Psalm 16:11; Psalm 27:4, 8; Psalm 119:10) and God loved to spend time with him.You are

“You have searched me, Lord, and you know me. You know when I sit and when I rise; you perceive my thoughts from afar. You discern my going out and my lying down; you are familiar with all my ways. Before a word is on my tongue you, Lord, know it completely. You hem me in behind and before, and you lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me, too lofty for me to attain.

Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if I make my bed in the depths, you are there. If I rise on the wings of the dawn, if I settle on the far side of the sea, even there your hand will guide me, your right hand will hold me fast. If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me and the light become night around me,” even the darkness will not be dark to you; the night will shine like the day, for darkness is as light to you.

For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be. How precious to me are your thoughts, God! How vast is the sum of them! Were I to count them, they would outnumber the grains of sand—when I awake, I am still with you. (Psalm 139:1-18 NIV emphasis mine)

The Creator of the Universe would like you to get to know Him in an intimate way. Is there a better way for you to spend your time?

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